Solving Marriage Conflict When There Is No Clear Resolution in Sight

Conflict in marriage is bound to happen. We are all human, and when our needs aren’t met, or there are differences in views, we will clash to get our side of the story heard. 

However, while conflict is inevitable, there are strategies to make sure when we do clash, it can be constructive. Especially during complex quarrels where resolution has blurred lines, using the proper methods in communication and empathy can make all the difference.

Here are three constructive strategies you should use when tackling marriage conflict when there is no cookie-cutter resolution in sight.

Moving Towards Collaboration and Empathy

Often, we tend to approach conflict in our relationships or marriage with the mindset that convincing our spouse our viewpoint is right is the number one goal. However, just as often, this tactic typically leads to dead-ends.

Shifting the direction of the conversation towards trying to understand your partner’s viewpoint and making a sincere attempt to listen and communicate actively can dramatically turn heated arguments around. Reciprocating the same attentiveness can disarm the defensive posture often taken in marital conflict and open up a new way of hearing and understanding your spouse’s core emotions and concerns.

Taking Responsibility for Your Part

In the heat of the moment, we sometimes get tunnel vision and zero in on only what our spouses are doing wrong without regard for what part we play in this conflict. Taking a step back and asking yourself what you might be doing to add fuel to the flame is one of the most vital steps in moving towards resolution.

It is courageous to admit your faults in moments of conflict. However, being willing to take responsibility for what you are doing and apologizing for it can change the entire dynamic of the conflict and help both of you grow as partners.

Addressing Mismatched Dynamics

In a marriage, both spouses are equal counterparts. Maintaining a sense of balance, however that might mean for your specific needs and goals, is vital to minimizing marriage conflict and potential build-up of resentment or unfair feeling of an unhealthy power play. 

In cases where one spouse already feels like there is a mismatched power dynamic, seeking marriage counseling can be imperative. Having a trusted expert in couple’s therapy that provides an unbiased, third party outlook to the situation can help spouses see eye-to-eye and get back to being partners.

Choose the Right Relationship Counselling Team to Handle Marriage Conflict

At the end of the day, you and your partner are both fighting on the side of your marriage and partnership. While marriage can be difficult to navigate, having the right tools, strategies and sometimes the right relationship counseling team to guide you through the roughest waters is what you need to make it through together.

The Love of Attraction couple’s counseling sessions with registered psychotherapist Kathleen Maiman can help you develop the right strategies to solve marriage conflict and move towards true collaboration in your relationship.

Are you interested in online marriage counseling? Check out our website to find out more about our broad range of in-person and online couples counseling services today.