The Love Chat
When it comes to relationships—romantic, familial, or even friendships—there is an ongoing negotiation between what is true (facts) and what is felt (feelings). Both play vital roles in how partners connect, resolve conflicts, and build lasting trust. Understanding the balance between the two can mean the difference between constant misunderstandings and a relationship grounded in both honesty and empathy. Learning how to balance the two—without dismissing or overemphasizing either—can bring more peace, understanding, and intimacy.
When someone cheats in a relationship, it causes a trauma. There are three phases of working through the betrayal. Let's explore them together.
As a relationship therapist, I am seeing more couples in my office with betrayals of deceit, infidelity and emotional affairs. My curiosity and compassion arises when working with these couples, helping them to move beyond the deceit and the betrayal. In the discovery process, we want to get to an understanding of how they got to this place of hurt and deceit. Here is one of a few blog posts on Betrayal and Infidelity. This one refers to “Why Partners Cheat”.
There are many myths floating around about marriage and relationships that can be detrimental and harmful to relationships. They can create unrealistic expectations and misunderstandings leaving couples down the wrong path, or worse, convince them that marriage is a hopeless cause. Good relationships can end early or fail because of these common myths. Let’s debunk them one by one.
Are you having difficult conversations that turn into more conflict and withdrawal? It could be that you are both lacking emotional intelligence.
Like many of us, I grew up in a family where there weren’t a lot of boundaries or assertiveness in requests. Rigid controlling behaviours were there instead of healthy boundaries. Here are some tips that I have learned about relationships and setting these boundaries. People have better relationships when there are healthy boundaries. And making requests, gives the other party the opportunity to meet us in our needs. Read on to better understand the difference between a request, a boundary, and an ultimatum.
