Self-Isolation for Couples: 3 Tips for Communicating Openly With Your Partner

1. Be Present 

Are you thinking about a previous conversation during the one you’re having? Are you preoccupied with what you want to say rather than listening to what’s being said? If you’re secretly hoping the conversation will end so that you can move onto the next item in your to-do list, it’s no secret—your partner can sense your inattention. And the net result of conversations like this is a lack of trust. 

Let your partner know that they’re your number one priority by giving them your full attention. Even when you’re angry or stressed, being mindful of your partner helps you deal with conflict in a healthy manner and allows you both to take a moment to let down your defenses. Remember that truly listening to your partner increases the chances of you being heard.

Before you sit down to have a discussion with your partner, take a moment to remind yourself that your goal is to strengthen your relationship, and improve your communication skills. A simple conversation that slips into a recounting of every instance in your relationship where you’ve felt wronged by your partner is counterproductive to your goal, wears you down, and leaves your partner feeling stranded. Remind yourself that you’re talking to someone who cares about you deeply. 

3. Focus on Non-verbal Cues

What’s your body language saying? Your partner isn’t likely to interpret a supportive message as supportive if your arms are crossed and you’re standing across the room. Non-verbal communication has the potential to make your partner feel understood and respected—or disregarded and inferior. Look in your partner’s eyes, offer an understanding touch, and show them—on top of telling them—that you’re listening with compassion. 

4. Communication Is a Skill. Work on It Together

Take the time to understand each other’s communication styles. Does one of you prefer to approach confrontation head-on while the other would rather take some time to cool off? Working together with your partner to resolve your conflicts openly and honestly lays the foundation for a healthy, rewarding, and long-lasting relationship. 

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Is your relationship feeling the immense pressures of quarantine? Are you looking for a professional to guide you and your partner toward establishing open and healthy communication patterns? Find out more about the couples therapy and counselling services I offer by clicking here—or feel free to contact me directly.