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"Spring into Your Best Self" with Mountain FM & ImagoImago helps Maryse Fortin of Mountain FM in finding love and keeping love!
Maryse Fortin of Mountain FM undergoes a personal look at herself and who she attracts as a partner. With new insights and relationship skills, she gains the confidence and knowledge of how to have a successful relationship!
Here is what Maryse wrote on her blog about her experience with Kathleen:
We are into my third step of “Springing Into My Best Self!” This week is relationships and ohhhh boy where do I even begin! I will first start out to say that I would recommend Kathleen Cowan to anyone she is truly amazing. I was lucky enough to spend three hours with her and I can honestly say that those three hours definitely shifted my way of thinking and might have even changed my life forever!
I started out by filling out two sets of forms. One asked questions like what I enjoyed about my previous relationships, what I didn’t like, what my fears were, insecure etc.. The next form was a series of similar questions but was based on my childhood relationships with my parents. Once we looked at both forms together we noticed that the feelings including the positives and the negatives were almost identical to each other. Feelings that I felt as a child are very correlated to feelings in my past relationships. This is where the Imago Theory comes in.
So here I am, forms in hand, I have all of this new information which is very eye opening and interesting but now what, where do I go from here! Well, Kathleen takes you through several thoughts, processes and exercises. There are a few things that stick clearly in my mind that I will share with you. I’ll start with the one I found to be the most interesting which is the “stages of a relationship”. I felt almost a huge sigh of relief when Kathleen was explaining this to me so I am excited to explain it to you!
There are three different stages in a relationship; the “honeymoon” pure bliss, joy and happiness stage. We feel as though everything is perfect and feel almost like we are living in a whole new world of joy, fun and adventure. Everything is perfect! Well, the next stage The Power Struggle inevitably will come (and I have to note that this stage is perfectly normal). The Power Struggle is when we start to see the negative traits in our partner and this is also when some of our fears from a child come out so we put up our protective barrier. This is often a part in a relationship where we run away and feel as though we have fallen out of love. We start to feel unsure about ourselves and our partnership. The important thing to realize is that you haven’t fallen out of love and this stage needs to happen in order to grow and move into the next stage which is EVEN BETTER than the honeymoon stage. It was so refreshing to hear that the Power Struggle is normal and that a few simple shifts can save your relationship forever, not only that but can bring your relationship to a level that you have wanted to experience but didn’t know how to get there or even get back there. No more running away!!
Now as you may know we have a tendency to bring our “baggage” along in new relationships its not our fault and we don’t mean to but we always do. We unconsciously carry moments and reservations from childhood into life today. When you look at babies they are so curious eyes wide open they explore everything touch everything put things in their mouth etc. Then as you get older little things start to happen (maybe a parent left you crying for a few minutes) and you start internalizing these angers and fears. This becomes baggage and inevitably this baggage joins you into new relationships and the baggage will stay there and cause problems in the partnership until you are aware of the fears and consciously take steps (with your partner and without) to heal these wounds. The more you act in ineffective ways the more the walls come up. As a child that you create security mechanisms and these carry you through life. Kathleen helps you learn to embrace the things you don’t like about yourself, turn them into positives and change your pattern of thinking. It can be as simple as visualizing yourself letting go of the pain letting go of the hurt and feeling all of the emotions really closing your eyes and taking it all in.
And finally a special little message to the single ladies like me out there!
I want to let you know that there is so much hope and excitement coming up for you in your next relationship. Don't worry about who you will meet or when you will meet them, your unconscious mind will attract you to the people you are supposed to be attracted to. Its easy to get confused and frustrated sometimes but always stay positive and if you feel stuck or want to learn more about yourself the great news is that Kathleen can help. You can always see her for a half hour introductory session for FREE Once you have a clear path of where you are headed it feels so good and freeing. No more uncertainties or fears or what ifs. Also I know for myself going into my next relationship I’ll be able to recognize my strengths and weaknesses and grow and definitely will not push away when things might get hard.
Kathleen Cowan has a very positive, welcoming and warm approach with her clients. I would not only recommend her to everyone I know but I would also suggest her services to you as well. She really knows her stuff and even though I just sat with her for one session I learned so much about myself and feel great! I felt like I was talking to a close friend. Its so great and interesting to learn about relationship dynamics, how couples work and what doesn’t work etc...I know now what I need to work to not only grow as a person but also when in my next relationship I can let go of past habits and can ease into a partnership filled with lots of love, laughter, fun, bliss and success!